I have had the same experience you have with the bar tape. VO's elkhide sew-ons are vurrnice, long lasting and more resistant to wear.

I've had two brooks. I bent the rails on the first one after a year. I put that one on my city bike and replaced it with a new one that is going strong. They are warrantied for first two years for that. They brake in much like a glove unlike synthetic ones. I hope you don't hit any more cars.